Gay father??? mk my parents got a divorce when i was 4 and since then my father has come out of the closet. anyway we have a very strong father-son bond and i was wondering about something the other day. i live in arkansas where gay adoption (sadly) is illegal and i was thinkin what if dad found a life partner? would i still be able to visit him on weekends and stuff? is there a law against it? |
| good for your father for knowing whats good for him... yes you will still be able to see them.. there is no law against his paternal son being around him... |
How would a girl with a gay father figure turn out!? I have always heard that the father figure a girl has while growing up influences her relationships with men,so my question is how would having a gay or effeminate father figure affect a girl,would she be attracted to feminine guys only or guys she could easily control?Anybody in a situation like this or has experienced this please tell your story.Thanks |
| However she wanted to. What an adult does that you have no control over has nothing to do with you or your life or your future goals. Your life is what you make it and should not have anything to do with a so called role model. You can choose a role model that you admire, for yourself, it does not have to be a father or mother figure, It should be someone that has good qualities and moral values that are similar to your own. Choosing a man or significant other should be based on the qualities you admire in a person, it should not be based on how your mother and father were or are. If your father were a drunkard, would you want to look for a man with those qualities? If your father were a wife beater, would you want to find a man with those qualities? As an adult you should know right from wrong and you should know what you want and expect for yourself. Lead your own life and don't allow anyone to influence you to the point that you pattern yourself after the wrong things. You should learn from the mistakes of those around you, so you don't make the same mistakes or pattern yourself to be like them. Especially if you dislike what you are seeing or experiencing. You can only control you, not others. Make the right decisions and reap the rewards. Make the wrong decisions and suffer the consequences. It's your life we are talking about, so make the most of it, and don't rely on the actions of others to make it for you. |
How would a girl with gay father figure turn out!? I have always heard that the father figure a girl has while growing up influences her relationships with men,so my question is how would having a gay or effeminate father figure affect a girl,would she be attracted to feminine guys only or guys she could easily control?Anybody in a situation like this or has experienced this please tell your story.Thanks |
I don't think that it would have any adverse affect on the girl at all.
Why would it?
He's still a man, right?
He's still her father, right?
Just because he has a different sexual preference.
As long as when he was in a relationship it was a mutually loving, accepting, and caring relationship, then he would be setting a great example for his daughter. |
What's the commercial for gay rights with the girl talking about her gay father? I saw a commercial within the last year or so supporting gay rights. I can't seem to find it anywhere! In the commercial, everyone is dressed in pink. I remember at one point, a young girl talks to the camera about her gay father. I'm pretty sure she was swearing in the video, but no entirely positive. I'm also positive I saw the video on PerezHilton.com but can't find it!
Anyone know which video I'm talking about? If yes, post the link! |
| It's from the FCKH8.com site. |
Movie about son whose gay brother dies in car crash after father forces him to perform sex act? The film was about a boy who runs away from home and struggles after his older brother is forced by their father to perform a sex act to cure him of being gay. The father was a judge. The younger brother is later befriended by a priest seeking to help the boy.
I cannot remember the name of this film. |
| Your description doesn't fit any movie that I've seen so I did some looking around on the web and came across a movie called Eighteen (2004/5). Could this be the movie? I read some of the reviews on Amazon.com and they kinda fit the same plot as what you describe. Take a look here: www.amazon.com/Eighteen-Paul-Anth… |
How would it be to be raised by a Lesbian & a gay father? Me & a friend are thinking about having a guy, & we want to know how it would be for the guy to have a lesbian mom & a Gay dad. & the mom is with girl & the Dad is with a guy.
Also to the few that have been raised by a Lesbian or gay parents, what are your feelings about having gay parents. |
I am a lesbian with a partner and a son. My son is 7 now and my partner and i have been together around 5 yrs (weNt through very confused straight patch when younger lol) phew. I have often wondered the effect it will have on him, but i honestly can say he's one happy little boy. Parenting obviously isn't just about male and female parents, my son has three uncles for role models.
Having guyren is a great thing that needs lots of careful planning and attention, if i could go back n change things i would, i don't mean my guy. I would be hesitant to start a family now unless i was certain of the other parent and their capabilities, thrust worthiness and reliability after all deciding to have a guy with this other couple may seem like a good idea but its one that needs lots of care and attention and realistic expectations. What do you expect from them and vice versa, how will the care of the guy be split and what are their parenting skills and views, do they match yours? etc. I t is not a decision to make lightly or one that you want to regret.
My son understands the situation and accepts that i am a gay woman but it doesnt stop him asking me when im gonna get married to a nice man lol. I think this world needs more diversity and a guy thats brought up with gay parents is one step closer to a more diverse and anti discriminatory world. Plus at the end of the day more good parents are needed for guys, working in social work i know this much. |
Support groups or books on being the guy of a gay father? I just found out my dad is gay. I'm looking for online support groups or books for those like me. It's not something I can talk to my mates about, plus I'd like to chat with others who are dealing with the same thing. Any ideas? |
Try emptyclosets.com It is a community based site with discussion boards. Teens from all over the world. I am sure there are some there who have been where you are now. If not I am sure they would be able to help you find information.
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Im gay single father raising guys and wondering when to tell them im gay and when to introduce them to partner? Im lost and confused. Its seem harder and harder to find a man willing to except that im a single father raising two guys on my own. When i do find someone of interest they bounce. right now im dating someone for 5months. met my guys twice but now im feeling he is ready to leave. when is a good time to introduce a guy to my guys. when is a good time to tell my guys am gay. lost, lonely and confused |
I'm a lesbian mum, and know plenty of other les/gay parents.
First off, how you tell them does depend on how old they are, but that you tell them in the first place doesn't. Don't wait until you think they're big enough, that could just leave them feeling that you've been keeping secrets from them for years, that you've changed on them, or that you're springing something on them out of the blue - assuming they haven't figured it out already, of course! They're never too young to know who Daddy might fall in love with.
If they're little guys, then there are heaps of great story books to introduce the idea of gay parents to them before making it personal. My daughter had the old classic "Heather has two Mommies" from before she could read. There are books for older guys too, but my girl has never taken an interest in those and has no problem with having lesbian mums and gay dads, so we haven't pushed those.
The important thing is to tell them before introducing someone special into their lives - let them deal with one thing at a time. Then when you do introduce a boyfriend to them, they're already ok with you being gay and can just get to know him as someone you want to spend time with. Doing it the other way around, introducing someone then telling them you're gay can be a bit much for guys. It makes things personal too quickly and overwhelms them. Let them get used to the idea of you liking guys first.
There are gay parenting groups, mostly dominated by lesbians I will admit, but still with many guys like yourself. They're not only a great way to connect with other parents who will understand what you're going through, but also a great way to build a social network of guys for your guys to get to know other guys like them. That will help them adjust to to idea of their dad being gay and that being totally normal and ok. :) They can also be a place to meet family oriented gay people - If you're looking for someone.
As to introducing someone who's not going to be a permanent, or at least long term, part of your life - I wouldn't personally. That's really stressful for guys, regardless of their parents' orientation, to adjust to the idea of someone being around, bond with them, get close to them, only to have them disappear from their lives when you break up. Introducing a partner to your guyren is changing the relationship from a relationship with you to a relationship with you and THEM. Their emotions are then involved too.
If you'd like to talk to me and my partner, or our daughter's dads (we have shared custody, but primary custody is with us atm), then feel free to email me from my profile. :)
Best of luck. You sound like a great Dad! |
How do i tell my father im gay? Im gay. Everyone in the family knows except for my father. Should i tell him or not? |
Do you and your Dad talk on a regular basis? If so, about what? If you need to, go out for a walk or a drive and tell him. He deserves to know all about you. He may already suspect and he's as afraid to speak to you about it is as you are with him. But someone needs to make the first move and it should be you. You don't have to go into details about what you do with other guys, but let him know that you're fine, you're happy and well adjusted with it. If parents think you're unhappy and then you tell them you're gay, they will focus only on the fact that you're unhappy because you're gay and you don't want to send that message!
So, buck up, put that smile on your face and let him know. I bet he'll say "as long as you're happy, I'm happy".
Good luck and let us know how it goes,
Peace,
Bret |
A gay father should not be allowed to his son? Do you agree? I don't want my ex around my son, because he's gay and left me for a man when I was 7 months pregnant. |
I think whatever the dad's sexuality, he is still the father and should definitely play a role.
I am sorry to hear about how he left you, but I hope he was supportive :( |